The very first thing is to disengage and allow some time for both of you to simmer down and reflect.

第一件事就是放开并给彼此一些时间来平息和思考。

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Combine miso, sake, mirin, and sugar in a small saucepan. Bring just to a boil, dial down the heat and simmer gently for about 20 minutes, or until it thickens a bit.

将味噌、清酒、味醂和糖同放一个小锅里，煮至刚开，小火焖煮大约20分钟，或煮到销稠即可。

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When it start to boil, turn down the heat and let the sauce simmer.

逐渐沸腾时，关小炉火，以文火慢慢煨调味酱。

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It automatically turns the heat down to a simmer temperature once the pan begins to boil.

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Mr. Huang said the local markets were likely to rise further, citing expectations that the European debt crisis will simmer down and China will ease its monetary policy in the near future.

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